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It’s 2016 good and proper

We’re only five days into 2016 and there has been no easing into it gently. 

It was a good decision to stay at home this Christmas holidays. With the big changes we have had in 2015, it made a lot more sense to enjoy some fairly low key quiet time in Singapore together even though it was very tempting to make a quick trip some place else. When you don’t spend much time at home, it’s good to appreciate it again. Whilst realising at the same time that I really need to do a big clear out……..

Anyways, the holidays have been long for #1 and 2 but I think they enjoyed themselves and of course Christmas and Star Wars played a big part of it. Tomorrow they are back to Big School. So one final act to mark the end of the holiday season was the taking down of the Christmas tree decorations. Gone are the twinkling lights and brightly coloured baubles. Long gone are the presents under the tree. It’s time to pack all the decorations away for just another 11 months and if you can’t wait until then the shops will be fully stocked by September.

But for now, it’s time to start the New Year!

Or if you’re in Singapore, it’s time to start preparing for the new Lunar New Year! I can’t believe how fast the shops were to empty its shelves of Christmas paraphanalia to make way for Chinese New Year stuff. Definitely leaving no room for festive sentimentality but that’s another occasion.

There was only semi drunken debauchery this year but any kind of mild drunken debachary can lead to a very slow start the next day. What was highly exciting is being able to stay out until nearly 2am and catch the new MRT line from right outside Singapore Bake Off’s condo to the nearest station to ours that’s just a 10 minutes walk home. How times have changed. Like wanting a comfortable seat and the music at a level you can actually hear a conversation going on around you. The great thing about #1, 2 and 3 being that little bit older this year is that we can prepare their breakfast utensils the night before and how grown up is it for them to pour cereal into their bowls themselves without Grown Up supervision! Unlimited Cocopops! It’s New Year’s Day afterall.  

Whilst there was huge antipcation of what 2015 would bring and a degree of uncertainty with it too, 2016 looks  more settled. Insofar that I’ve made the leap back into Gainful Employment, we’re still living in Singapore and #1 and 2 have started Big School. With these transitions and constants also brings new perspectives such as the whole work life balance question. The most important thing for me is family and spending time with #1, 2 and 3. Equally important is spending time with Husband. As is spending time for yourself. And friends. And family. 

I know last year there were many moments I felt like time was running away from me. Not enough time for #1, 2 and 3, for Husband, for myself, friends and family as I adjusted back to a life that involved Gainful Employment. It’s only with hindsight that you realise such a big change is a big deal and you down play it because there are lots of people who are in exactly the same position and who have been in that position a whole lot longer. But there’s no point being hard on yourself. 
Whilst I wouldn’t make it a New Year Resolution to spend more time doing all the above, I’m more conscious of decisions that places those things at the centre of it. Perhaps it means being a little more selective rather than agreeing to everything but time well spent is something I’m after doing more of. Because as you know, time can pass by so quickly. Already we’ll be a week into the new year and whilst it’s still a long few weeks before pay day, we’re already wishing away January.

Except if you’re #1 who turns a big SEVEN very soon. There is no time to sit back and rest on your laurels as life is forever evolving and we’re trying to keep up with everything that is going on. 

It’s exciting though and looking ahead there are big events to look forward to. This year we’ll be welcoming new family members. I can hardly believe that our Dazzler, who I looked after when he was a small child, is about to become a father himself. There are weddings to look forward to (d0n’t break out into a cold sweat, I’m not referring to just you and you know who you are!) Birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and people to see again. Races to run, new skills to learn, old projects to finish off. 

With a new year brings a time to plan ahead and embrace the good things. Things that I’m very much looking forward to. It’s also a time to acknowledge the things that you wish to change and not be bound by reasons why you can’t. 

Happy New Year! Wishing you good health, happiness, peace, resilience and much love.

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