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International Women’s Day 2016: “Pledge for Parity”

on March 8, 2016

This International Women’s Day, I have taken the #PledgeforParity for a better gender balanced world. I have specifically pledged to take women’s and men’s contributions equally.


There is no question that there is global gender inequality. From salary gaps and career opportunities to the access to education and the perceived value of the lives of girls and women.


I want to be able to read the newspaper and not be faced with articles of Doctors in some countries offering their services for free to parents who know they are expecting baby girls to stop them from choosing abortion. Of war torn countries using violence against women and girls as a weapon. To read that education is not a basic human right but a long hard fight for even the most minimal level of education.



Gender inequality is a great many things. Power, tradition, carelessness and a lack of action to help those around us.


As a parent of young children, a boy and two girls, I see the gender differences in the way they like to play, what they like to play with, how they like to dress. It never ceases to amaze me that #1 almost seemed genetically coded to like anything with wheels attached to it from the get go. Whilst #3 having been surrounded by toys, colours, television programmes for both genders has always without fail chosen the most frilliest, sparkliest thing she can reach out for. Pink was the first and only colour she learnt. Out of the three, she was the only who ever raided my make up bag before she was 2, wanting to make herself look pretty.


I thought I never actively encouraged this gender specific differentiation but when buying something as simple as water bottles I’ve reached for the pink, purple and blue ones. Every time it makes me uncomfortable as I question my contribution to this fight for gender quality. Sometimes there’s no choice in the matter, it’s very much either one or the other.


But I do have control over the positive messages I give out to them and to people around me. Language is a very powerful tool for a start and constant reinforcement that you are capable and allowed to be whoever and whatever you want to be.



Gender stereotypes were starting to creep into play with #1 declaring that certain Extra Curricular Activities were for one gender or another but school plays a big part in knocking down those perceptions as well.


What the children like to play with should be viewed as exactly that. I wouldn’t want to say you can’t do this or that because it’s for girls or boys. It’s for everyone.


There are times at home when one of us is seen to be doing more of the domestic household chores. Is that gender inequality? Or just because one of you has more time than the other? Or perhaps just one of you needs to remember the milk is running out and there’s no bread for packed lunches the next day. Should we clearly split our household duties down the middle so we’re clear who’s doing what or can we rely on a more holistic approach?


I think you do within couples need to remember to show consideration for what makes everything work well in your lives. If you fall within a pattern of specific roles then why not so long as you’re both comfortable with it.



I am very fortunate to live in the times that we do, with the opportunities that are often taken for granted. A good level of education, being able to drive, have my own bank account, choose to marry whomever I pleased, have a career, read a book, wear what I like and say what I like. I am more privileged than I know and what am I doing with it?


For starters, it’s important to reinforce those positive body images and achieving one’s ambition in #1, 2 and 3. It is also equally important to teach them kindness, compassion and respect for themselves and others. It’s about them as people and they deserve to fulfill their potential and we are in a position to help them with that.


Speaking up for all those who don’t have such privilege is our responsibility. Regardless of their gender.


The World Economic Forum states that closing the global gender equality gap will not happen until 2133. I’ll be 159 by then. That’s like three generations away at least. It’s pretty ridiculous isn’t it.


So whilst it is International Women’s Day,  take the #PledgeforParity not just for women but for men too.



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