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Embracing 40……..Life begins at 40 with a Brilliant New Adventure

on December 14, 2013

If you have been following my blog for a while then you will know all about my wonderful friend, Brilliant New Adventure. If you are new then please refer to my older posts ‘Live the life you have always dreamed of’ and ‘So begins a Brilliant New Adventure’.

Today is her birthday and I’d like you to join me in wishing her a very Happy Birthday. If anyone is looking forward to what new horizons after forty will bring then I think Brilliant New Adventure is one of them.

At the start of this year, or even just six months ago, I wasn’t expecting to not be celebrating with Brilliant New Adventure this special day. In some ways it’s probably a blessing for her that I haven’t been there by her side counting down the days. She might not have wanted a constant reminder! Equally though, it’s a shame to have been unable to plan and speculate together on how this landmark birthday ought to be celebrated.

Should we go big with a party for 150 and cocktails from dusk until dawn on a roof top terrace bar overlooking the skyline of Singapore? Or should we go with a small intimate degustation menu at one of the latest on trend restaurants in town? Would there be all day pampering and relaxation at Spa Botanica at The Sentosa Hotel before a fancy dress party of everyone going as you in your various guises through the years?

What kind of birthday cake should it be? A Chanel handbag or Louboutin heels? How about both! So long as you can eat every inch of the cake, I say. What about balloons? Can we have the room decorated with ‘Fabulous at Forty’ balloons? I might have to throw in a few ‘You’re really, really old’ ones in too. Will she wear a ‘I’m 40’ badge? Or a sash? Or how about I make you a ginormous paper hat with 40 flashing off the top?

Forty. It’s the biggest number you’ve been to date and so it should be celebrated but then every birthday should be celebrated no matter what the number.

Forty seems to be the new coming of age. How many articles and interviews have you read about people saying their forties are the best years of their lives so far. To have reached a stage in life where you’re confident with your place in the world, where you know how to look after yourself, where you are more comfortable with your own company and the person you are than ever before. Perhaps you look in the mirror and you may not have the youthful bloom and anticipation of twenty years ago but knowledge and wisdom are far better replacements. Look all around you and the pace hasn’t exactly slowed down but you’re more able to navigate your way with a calm and deft manner. Making better choices than haphazard ones for fear of missing out on something else.

This year has brought a good deal of significant change for Brilliant New Adventure. Changes that were unexpected. Changes that were painful. Changes that were ultimately necessary.

So here we are. A brilliant new adventure has begun and turning forty can only add to the excitement of this brilliant new adventure. A new decade bringing with it a fresh start and brand new possibilities bringing brand new people to meet and get to know.

If you’re wondering how exactly is Brilliant New Adventure getting on in Hong Kong then I’m happy to say she’s doing very well, quite possibly still thinking she’s on holiday over there though. Missing us terribly of course, especially #1, 2 and 3. #1 is already asking to go to Hong Kong for his birthday treat because that’s where his good friend lives. Quite a step up from his last Birthday treat request which was a ride on the underground trains. Oh and karma really does exist you know. Good grace and dignity rules over cheap digs on social media and nobheadedness.

It’s been quite a change for me too not having her there down the road. To have an integral part of your daily life go topsy turvy is quite bewildering. It took a while to get used to the empty space in my weekly calendar. The coffee in the morning, the play dates in the afternoon. How that would have changed by now with #3 on the vertical move and wanting to participate in everything and climb onto anything in sight!

Yes of course I miss her and I miss being able to celebrate her birthday today too.

So how has she spent it in the end? Well it started off with a late night out with a really good friend of hers who shared many of her adventures in Singapore and is now planning many more with her in Hong Kong too. Then it continued with a full day of being showered with birthday treats in the heart of her family home because when it comes down to it, how any birthday should be celebrated is with the people you love and who love you too.

The glitz on top is just for fun and frivolity, it’s not what makes the occasion any more special or memorable. The good thing about 40th birthday celebrations is that they just seem to go on forever like the Queen’s Diamond Jubilee and so there’s ample time to celebrate again when we next meet.

Happy 40th Birthday to my dear friend, Brilliant New Adventure. May happiness be yours as well as that Korean actor you’re always going on about.



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